tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3938625051002412002.post4546290723428102498..comments2023-04-02T02:07:12.045-07:00Comments on Murray/Kerry An Adoptees Blog: The Enigma That was My Adopting Mothermuzzahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03459370487745848200noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3938625051002412002.post-72653397336935316952011-10-14T18:02:57.520-07:002011-10-14T18:02:57.520-07:00Thank you for sharing :-)Thank you for sharing :-)Amandahttp://www.declassifiedadoptee.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3938625051002412002.post-49168218776058390402011-10-06T01:35:39.802-07:002011-10-06T01:35:39.802-07:00I like the way you give your a/mother her dues Mur...I like the way you give your a/mother her dues Murray. I am sure she loved you, and didn't know problems you would encounter as an adopted child. Nobody did at the time really. They thought this and that was for "the best", but there was no science behind their thinking. I think people thought they could create a family and it all be okay. I am glad you felt loved, and glad you had an a/mother who did her best.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17123628954629772355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3938625051002412002.post-81247898921998828772011-10-05T16:38:03.003-07:002011-10-05T16:38:03.003-07:00Thanks for sharing this Murray. I too have met som...Thanks for sharing this Murray. I too have met some really lovely adoptive mother's. I remember the first time I met a young lady at our adoption suppport group in 1985, her a/mother was with her, helping her to try and get information on her bio/mum. I was blown away, as this idea of a a/mum helping to find a bio/mum was very strange to me. I had just started lobbying back then and I had a lot to learn. My a/mother was also silent on her back ground as well, which i feel is a bit abnormal. I never knew where she grew up, went to school, what grade she went to, there was never ever any talk of childhood friends etc..nothing. All i know is her mum lived with us for a short while when i was brought into the family, apparently she loved me very much. I only ever met a/mothers 2 sisters and some cousins a handful of times. I get the impression she had an abusive childhood and her dad was an alcholic who died when before they got me. I can not speak of my a/mother in a good way like you can. But I certainly know many adoptees have lovely memories of a women who did their best to love and provide for the children they recieved. Though not perfect and greiving for their own losses managed to as you say, 'make a loving family from a handful of strangers' It would not have been an easy task back then when a/parents were not provided the skills to understand and cope with the grieving and traumtised child, who often acted out their unresolved issues as teenagers. Yes! it is good to relfect back in a good way on the a/mothers that tried to do their best.Kerri SAintnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3938625051002412002.post-24176439780656675122011-10-05T00:14:56.668-07:002011-10-05T00:14:56.668-07:00Yes indeed, a deep love and she obviously did her ...Yes indeed, a deep love and she obviously did her best for you all in her own way.Vonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17421069895155350144noreply@blogger.com