How LDA's cop it from all

FOREWORD.

TODAY I WAS ASKED BY THE ABC TO REMOVE THE DIRECT QUOTE FROM THIS BLOG WHICH I WILL DO. I DONT KNOW THE REASONS BEHIND IT BUT IN THE INTEREST OF  THE GOOD RELATIONSHIP I HAVE WITH THEM I READILY AGREE.

HOWEVER, I DO BELIEVE THAT I HAVE THE RIGHT TO COMMENT ON MATTERS THAT CHALLENGE MY MOTHERS AND MY HISTORY REGARDLESS OF  WHERE THEY ORIGINATE FROM AND ARE DIRECTED TO AND WILL CONTINUE TO CHALLENGE ALL WHO TRY TO KEEP THE TRUTH AT BAY

recently i was interviewed and a blog post by the manager of ABC Open/separated from the manager ABC Open Ballarat  open  page appeared  the link being:


https://open.abc.net.au/projects/separated-01du6ze/posts/forced-adoption-apology-brings-validation-32bd8cn
Recently the ABC received comments that were not published but impinged upon my integrity and that of my late natural mother.  The comments went along the lines like I cant be affected by adoption because I am a late discovery adoptee and that because  my mother was with me for six weeks it was not a forced adoption.  bothy comments had this little rip snorter.  Now this comment had been raised once before on Facebook after the stormy meeting with Professor Mushin where one mother accused adoptive parents of being kidnappers.  The comments about not being forced because I was with my mother for six weeks came from non other than the self appointed enforcer of origins , Vikki Blackduck aka Vikki Lewis, so whilst i don't know who posted the comments to the ABC it is safe to assume the sources may have been similar

This comment  by a person who obviously has a axe to grind also shows how ignorant she or he is about adoption in Australia. it is obvious that they has been raised on the propaganda of those who themselves are so wrapped in their agony they cant see the forest for the trees. To correct this extremely misguided person and to hope she can learn about the reality of adoption from an late discovery adoptees as well as the fact they have  personally insulted hundreds of thousands in Australia and worldwide.

In relation to the first sentence.  No  the child is not aware he is affected by adoption and when as a adult they then become aware of just how they have been affected. many things that occurred as a child fall into place, Example why was i baptised 60 miles from the home church my mother was heavily involved in.  Why did some of the local townsfolk look upon me with contempt even when my a/mothers was put into the ground.  Why was some kids allowed to play with me and others not.  Why did the headmaster of the primary school when i passed the local exam to go to high school sixty miles away just say "he can go".  Why was i so angry and in my late teens and early twenties have blackout when filled with anger for no medical or psychological reason at the time.

Yes one may not had been aware they were adopted but they subconsciously knew something was amiss. I loved my a/parents and still do but never ever bonded with them. And i have never bonded with my own children (perhaps a legacy from not bonding myself). my daughter despises me because of that. And i have not even come to the discovery phase.

At one stage in Tasmania they were notifying one person per week that they were adopted when they had no idea, that's 52 per year and over five years that would total 260. And the population of Tasmania today is only 500,000.  A massive number in such a small state.  When a person discovers they are adopted, they see a massive betrayal of their live and the fact that the parents did never tell them the truth. This creates a  lifetime of suspicion and questioning. maybe that is why the commenter does not like a typical LDA because we question the established rhetoric from all sides . I certainly questioned the right of mothers to determine how we should act and feel and refused to accept their truth because it was not mine.  We know anecdotal that worldwide the discovery has led to suicide and loss of the moral compass. It did for me , lose my moral compass for some two to three years before i could rationalise the matter in relation to living a lifetime of lies. it has affected me for ever. my daughter said she lost any chance of bonding with me emotionally when I found out because I withdrew further from them. A lifetime of losses caused indirectly by late discovery adoption.

Now to the insult to my mothers memory in that how can I be affected by forced adoption when my mother gave me up willingly. This is pure ignorance on the commenter's part as to what has happened in relation to adoption in Australia. Both comments had made much of the fact that i was at the home with my mother for 6 weeks before adoption yes I was but in 1950 it was looked at as a form of penance for the mother to look after the baby before adopting. In fact the Salvation Army believed it would make sure the mother would not go down the path of promiscuity if she had suffered the loss of her child after  8 week or less,Read the comments by major Stevens in this Trove article:

http://trove.nla.gov.au/ndp/del/article/22913146?

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Now as to the so called volunteering bit . here is a bit of the extract from my mothers diary:

My little son was born 23rd February 1950, and I was made to sign adoption papers. I was still in the home six weeks later when his new parents came to collect him.


Now here is a q quote part of one of the four letters i received from her:

" I saw you last when you were six weeks when they took you out of my arms"

I found out through one her sons (because I never met my mother) that it took two people to drag me from her one being her mother (my maternal grandmother) the other the Salvo matron.

So for anyone to use the six weeks as a false claim that I was not the product of a forced adoption is just so ridiculous that the person who wrote that is just beyond any logical comprehension

I am sorry that i cant have a reasonable discussion with those who feel they are right no matter what.  It shows that yourselves and the organisation you may represent are just two hurt and full of hate to be a viable organisation. That is why i will always refer those in need to organisations like Vanish PARC and PASQ